Mysterious INFJ

I have taken these personality tests for years and I ALWAYS get the same results: INFJ, which stands for Introverted INtuitive Feeling Judging. Only 1% of people have my personality, so it is one many find quite mysterious.

*INFJs are introspective, caring, sensitive, gentle and complex people that strive for peace and derive satisfaction from helping others.

*INFJs are highly intuitive, empathetic and dedicated listeners. They have a special ability to listen to people, never push people away and are always prepared to listen for as long as it takes to make others feel better, even if they theoretically have better things to do.

*The INFJ is as genuinely warm as they are complex. INFJs hold a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring. This natural empathy and caring helps to be really effective at helping others through problems. In this manner, they make great friends, counselors, teachers, and mates.



*They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or charged anger. Although they are generally soft-spoken and gentle, they may become stubborn and sharp-tongued at times when their expectations aren't met, or when under a lot of stress.

*INFJs are deeply concerned about their relations with individuals as well as the state of humanity at large. They are, in fact, sometimes mistaken for extroverts because they appear so outgoing and are so genuinely interested in people -- a product of the Feeling function they most readily show to the world. On the contrary, INFJs are true introverts, who can only be emotionally intimate and fulfilled with a chosen few from among their long-term friends, family, or obvious "soul mates."

*NFJs are champions of the oppressed and downtrodden. They often are found in the wake of an emergency, rescuing those who are in acute distress.



*INFJs are warm, considerate partners who feel great depth of love for their partners. They enjoy showing this love, and want to receive affirmation back from their mates. They are perfectionists, constantly striving to achieve the Perfect Relationship. This can sometimes be frustrating to their mates, who may feel put upon by the INFJs demanding perfectionism. However, it may also be greatly appreciated, because it indicates a sincere commitment to the relationship, and a depth of caring which is not usually present in other types.


*Sexually, INFJs view intimacy as a nearly spiritual experience. They embrace the opportunity to bond heart and soul with their mates. As service-oriented individuals, it's very important to them that their mates are happy. Intimacy is an opportunity for the INFJ to selflessly give their love, and experience it in a tangible way.

*Idealist women tend to be very romantic. They love to give and receive tokens of affection, such as an original poem, a hand carved box, or an item which reminds them of some shared experience. Men often appreciate their compassion and empathy along with their belief in others.


*INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective. They make loving parents and usually have strong bonds with their offspring. They have high expectations of their children, and push them to be the best that they can be. This can sometimes manifest itself in the INFJ being hard-nosed and stubborn. But generally, children of an INFJ get devoted and sincere parental guidance, combined with deep caring. Children of INFJs remember their parents fondly as warm, patient, and inspirational.

*The INFJ is likely to spend a lot of time socialing with family members. After that, the INFJ may have friends represented from any of the personality types. All kinds of people are drawn towards the INFJ. They are usually quite popular, although they may be unaware of it themselves, because they don't place a lot of importance on it. The INFJ is valued by their close friends for their warmth and consideration and for their ability to inspire and motivate others to be the best that they can be.

*Family events are opportunities for INFJs to explore and learn, so they are attended with eagerness and satisfaction. If family events are sources of tension, INFJs will tend to shun them, even be terrified by them. If, on the other hand, they are filled with warmth and joy, INFJs can become quite involved, though often in a more passive than active way.



*They are likely to enjoy research and will go great lengths to find answers. INFJs enjoy investigating the possibilities and meanings beyond the actual facts and realities. Reading holds a particular fascination for them because it allows them to have quiet reflection time and engages their imagination. They also like the written word (and rely on it more than the spoken word) since it is usually better structured and more coherent with a ready-made framework.

*INFJs have a knack for fluency in language and facility in communication. Usually self-expression comes more easily to INFJs on paper, as they tend to have strong writing skills. INFJs have vivid imaginations exercised both as memory and intuition, and this can amount to genius, resulting at times in an INFJ's being seen as mystical. This unfettered imagination often will enable this person to compose complex and often aesthetic works of art such as music, mathematical systems, poems, plays, and novels. In a sense, the INFJ is the most poetic of all the types. INFJs may be attracted to writing as a profession, and often they use language which contains an unusual degree of imagery. They are masters of the metaphor, and both their verbal and written communications tend to be elegant and complex.


*INFJs value their integrity a great deal. They are generally "doers" as well as great dreamers. They also are constantly in a state of self-renewal. They search for their unique identity and place in the world, constantly defining this better. They are activists there for the cause, not for the power. Strongly humanitarian in outlook, INFJs tend to be idealists, and because of their J preference for closure and completion, they are generally "doers" as well as dreamers. This rare combination of vision and practicality often results in INFJs taking a disproportionate amount of responsibility in the various causes to which so many of them seem to be drawn.



*Since INFJs have such strong value systems, and persistent intuitive visions which lend them a sense of "knowing", they do best in positions in which they are leaders, rather than followers. Although they can happily follow individuals who are leading in a direction which the INFJ fully supports, they will very unhappy following in any other situation.



*In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative and somewhat independent. INFJs can also be found in service-oriented professions. INFJs are future oriented, and direct their insight and inspiration toward the understanding of themselves and thereby human nature. Their work mirrors their integrity, and it needs to reflect their inner ideals. Beneath the quiet exterior, INFJs hold deep convictions about the weightier matters of life. Those who are activists -- INFJs gravitate toward such a role -- are there for the cause, not for personal glory or political power.








Possible Weaknesses in Relating to Others

* May apply their judgment more often towards others, rather than towards themselves
* With their ability to see an issue from many sides, they may always find others at fault for any problems in their lives
* May have unrealistic and/or unreasonable expectations of others
* May be intolerant of weaknesses in others
* May believe that they're always right
* May have an intense and quick temper
* May hold grudges, and have difficulty forgiving people
* May be wishy-washy and unsure how to act in situations that require quick decision making
* May have difficulty communicating their thoughts and feelings to others
* May see so many tangents everywhere that they can't stay focused on the bottom line or the big picture
* Extreme dislike of conflict and criticism
* Not good with money or practical day-to-day life necessities

Gist of Strengths

* Warm and affirming by nature
* Sensitive and compassionate towards people
* Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength and weakness)
* Good listeners
* Complex and deep
* Service-oriented
* Value deep, authentic relationships
* great depth of personality - intricately and deeply woven, mysterious, and highly complex, sometimes puzzling even to themselves
* Usually have good communication skills, especially written
* Highly principled
* Quiet leaders
* Future-oriented
* Constantly seeking meaning and purpose in everything
* Creative and visionary
* An INFJ has a "stick to it" attitude. They're not afraid of hard work, and will put forth a great deal of effort towards something that they believe in. This persistence will help the INFJ to achieve an identified goal.
* Perfectionistic and idealistic, they always strive for the best.
* Usually intelligent and able to concentrate and focus, the INFJ can usually grasp difficult ideas and concepts.
* Introverted
* Abstract in communicating
* Live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities - part of an unusually rich inner life
* Artistic (and natural affinity for art), creative, and easily inspired
* Very independent
* Orderly view towards the world but within themself arranged in a chaotic, complex way only they could understand
*Enjoys change, challenge, and variety
*Dreamers whose genius, caring, and concern can be an inspiration to many other people